Millions of American teenagers will go to proms this year. One of those friends, Neil Abercrombie, then a graduate student in the sociology department, frequently would see young Obama around town with his grandfather Stanley, whom Obama called "Gramps." He added: "I can't say that I've avoided all, or any, of these hazards successfully." I get one, maybe.. A member of the varsity squad, though not a starter, Obama and his teammates brought Punahou the state championship in 1979, his senior year. The number at Dunhams apartment in a nondescript Honolulu high rise has not changed in more than a quarter-century. If you look at our teams, that year I was the only white guy on the starting five. Because of his biracial heritage, he said, he was "like everyone in Hawaii, a mix of a lot of things." His biggest struggles were his feelings of abandonment. "Barry's biggest struggles then were missing his parents. The three men Mike Ramos, Bobby Titcomb and Greg. Half the homes were old bamboo huts; half, including the Soetoro house, were nicer, with brick or concrete and red-tiled roofs. Now lots of people are interested in helping graduates of Punahou School jog their foggy memories, trolling for revelations about a young man who spent much of his time that season riding the bench. In a new introduction to the reissued edition of "Dreams," he noted that the dangers of writing an autobiography included "the temptation to color events in ways favorable to the writer [and] selective lapses of memory." If only I had saved that Nerf hoop we used to dunk on. All four were classmates at Punahou School in Honolulu, which Obama has described as 'a prestigious prep school, an incubator for island elites. Yet no such Life issue exists, according to historians at the magazine. And a young, iconoclastic white woman who had defied the social mores of the day by marrying a dashing black man from Kenya was coping with the fact that her new husband essentially had abandoned her and their young child in 1963 to study at Harvard. And once you started playing well, contributing on the court, pretty much the racial aspect goes away.. It was hard to imagine that he felt that way, because he just seemed happy all the time, smiling all the time, she said. Hes exhibited class and dignity all the way through it. Were the minorities here.. He is unyielding in the things he believes in., I think hes done an unbelievable job as president, he said. 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Wearing a white shirt and dark-colored shorts and a baseball hat, President Barack Obama finished 18 holes of golf at the Kapolei Golf Course in Kapolei, Hawaii. They were joined by two other teenagers - his best friend Greg Orme and date Kelli McCormack. In 2006, Mr. Obama used the family Christmas holiday there to decide whether to run for president. Maybe we could have helped him. I don't know why Greg would want to spend anytime with me at all! You really deserve better than clowns like us; you even laugh at my jokes!. Barry was a very confident player who liked to drive to the basket. Back in 1979 he was known as Barry and he had a beef with his basketball coach. They're not his wife and daughters, who came with him, but a trio of pals whose friendship dates back to Obama's high school days in Hawaii. Vanity Fair is coming soon. So just get the f--- outta my face." He was loving and generous." Obama admits in "Dreams" that during high school he frequently smoked marijuana, drank alcohol, even used cocaine occasionally. More than 40 interviews with former classmates, teachers, friends and neighbors in his childhood homes of Hawaii and Indonesia, as well as a review of public records, show the arc of Obama's personal journey took him to places and situations far removed from the experience of most Americans. The photos appear in the new issue of TIME, which hits news stands Friday. Obama has told the story--one of the watershed moments of his racial awareness--time and again, in remarkable detail. ---------- Kirsten Scharnberg reported from Honolulu and Kim Barker from Jakarta, Indonesia; Tribune staff reporter Ray Gibson contributed to this report. Anyone can read what you share. They're not his wife and daughters, who came with him, but a trio of pals whose friendship dates back to Obama's high school days in Hawaii. He showed leadership and caring for his teammates, McLachlin said. Standing up for your buddies. "They were like brothers," says Allman. Obama's High School Basketball Coaches, Teammates Remember 'Barry' Titcomb, who golfed another two days with Obama this month before the others got into town, was a year behind Obama at Punahou. Im incredibly proud of my friend. Now, I think hes a better golfer., Orme and Obama became pals not long after the future president arrived at Punahou as a fifth grader. He always made time to see his old coach I didnt play him as much as I should have and he had every right to say 'Ill show you coach.' Made a strong case for them.. Obama's motorcade left his Kailua vacation rental home at 10:48 a.m. under partly cloudy skies. We had to prove ourselves, focus on playing good ball. Wed drive around in my van listening to Earth, Wind & Fire and looking for places to play, he said. He knew the really small apartment that Mr. Obama lived in with his grandparents and what a talker Gramps was. The real Ray, Keith Kakugawa, is half black and half Japanese. A high school friend has shared photographs of Obama at his prom night withTIME magazine - as well as a very friendly note he penned in her yearbook, in which he calls her 'sweet and foxy'. As he had at the old school, Obama sat in a back corner. Mr. Obamas concern, Mr. Axelrod said, was for Mr. Titcomb, whose arrest was international news because he happened to be Barack Obamas friend.. He played several rounds on the nine-hole course with Bobby Titcomb and Greg Orme, childhood friends from Hawaii who flew in to meet the president. Obama played basketball at Punahou with Orme, who the alumni magazine says is now a building contractor. While Obama got saddled with the nickname Barry OBomber, Maurer said he also "got teased a lot for taking hard to make shots.". Our second string should be playing more.'" They're not his wife and daughters, who came with him, but a trio of pals whose friendship dates back to Obama's high school days in Hawaii. He'd pick them up if they fell down,'' Darmawan recalled. "They own it and we in it. Greg? The experience of being part of a winning team was important to Barry, to all of us.. Thats when we see each other. "He liked drawing Spider-Man and Batman," said another friend, Widiyanto Hendro Cahyono, 46. That's where I'd been headed: the final, fatal role of the young would-be black man," Obama wrote in "Dreams." You are extremely sweet and foxy, he wrote. The motorcade arrived in Kapolei around 11:30 a.m. ___ Barack Obama, #23, during his senior year at Punahou School, Honolulu. Obama and his mother joined her new husband, a kind man who later would become a detached heavy drinker and womanizer, family members in Indonesia say. The night, Obama later wrote, made him furious as he realized that whites held a "fundamental power" over blacks. A close friend and track teammate of Kakugawa, John Hagar, also said he was surprised by Obama's description of the character representing Kakugawa as an angry young black man. Old friend disputes memoir Every senior graduating from Punahou gets to design a quarter-page in the yearbook. From left: Greg Orme, Kelli Allman, Barack Obama and Megan Hughes at Allmans parents house in Honolulu. Their photos are more likely to be stored on Facebook than in a shoe box.
He was probably studying them and learning from them. But Furushima, too, is learning to be on guard around the press. "Did you know that in Thomas Jefferson's day, and right up through the 1930s, anybody who had the price of tuition could go to Harvard? The president was returning to the White House on Monday. President Barack Obama Prom Photos | Time The Obamas did skip Hawaii in 2007 and instead the friends joined Mr. Obama in wintry Iowa for the January 2008 presidential caucuses. Most classmates and teachers recall an easygoing, slightly chunky young man, with the same infectious smile he sports today. Yet even Obama has acknowledged the limits of memoir. The White House says Obama is playing golf with some of his longtime friends including Mike Ramos, Greg Orme and Bobby Titcomb. The tenacity and determination Obama showed to make his high school basketball team was an early indicator of the greatness to come. He laughed and posed for photos with friends. IE 11 is not supported. Bendix said he and Obama stayed in touch and he was at his 2008 inauguration. The U.S. military was expanding on the island of Oahu, home to the new capital of Honolulu. "You need to find Greg Orme," instructed Obama's old basketball coach, Chris McLachin. One place Obama has said he found a sense of community was on the basketball court. Young Barack Obama in a 7th grade photo in 1974 at Punahou School, Honolulu, Hawaii. Barry did a good job but I think we needed a change," he said. We didnt aim high enough., Every time I see him on television its surreal, said Topolinski. He is undergoing what some have called the Profile Primary -- which is testing his ability to keep control of his public image, as journalists sketch portraits of the candidate as a young man and comb for contradictions and potential embarrassments in his past. Instead, the chemicals had peeled off much of his skin, leaving him sad and scarred, Obama recalled. They have a different level of affection for you than friends you meet later in life. Mr. Obama and the others often would visit family members there at Christmas and on occasion the men would meet, but it was not until 2004 that they agreed to gather annually. I hadnt seen him for 30 years.. "He would protect the smaller ones." , updated And when tempers flared, Barry was the peacemaker. Obama confirmed in an interview earlier this month that the Ray character in "Dreams" actually is Kakugawa. I hope we can keep in touch this summer, even though Greg will be gone.'. In fact, the Life article and the photographs don't exist, say the magazine's own historians. In another passage from the book, Ray complains that white Punahou girls don't want to date black guys and that he and Obama don't get enough playing time as athletes, speculating that they'd be "treated different if we was white. And having a Hawaiian in the White House made them all proud. 'When you're president, everybody wants something from you and only these types of friends are able to simply want your well-being. In the six weeks since Obama announced his intention to run for the White House, he routinely has suggested that his diverse background--raised for a time in the Third World, schooled at elite institutions and active in urban politics--makes him the best-suited candidate to speak to rich and poor, black and white, mainstream voters and those utterly disenchanted with the political system. For me its the unconditional love, its the nontransactional nature of the relationship that enduring quality that is something that I really value, he said. Mr. Titcomb was golfing with the president within hours of the Obamas Dec. 21 arrival on Oahu. You have reached your limit of 4 free articles. Yearbook note Obama left for classmate Tom Topolinski when they graduated in 1979 from the Punahou school. The three men Mike Ramos, Bobby Titcomb and Greg. And like Obama, he found his place on the basketball court. You gotta give him that.. But absent from those discussions, they say, was another student then known as Barry Obama. Greg Orme, a fellow varsity basketball player, was Obamas constant companion. But Obama did get to play in the game when the school clinched the state title. Obama Hits Russia, the Gym and the Beach Thursday, Dec. 29 Still, the story of his early years highlights how politics and autobiography are similar creatures: Each is shaped to serve a purpose. Topolinski laughed when he recalled how they both tried out for the schools football team. "One of us said that being the different guys in the room had awakened a little bit of empathy to what he must feel all the time at school. For the president to be able to be with a group where he can be absolutely relaxed a group that knows him from his youth on, and who he knows are friends with him not because of what he became, but because of who he is is a really comforting and warm thing, said David Axelrod, Mr. Obamas longtime strategist. Mike Ramos, Bobby Titcomb, and Greg Orme-friends from Obama's high school daze in Hawaii-joined the president for a round on the links at Andrews Air Force Base in Maryland on Saturday morning. A close friend of Obama's from their teenage years, Greg Orme, spent so much time with Dunham that he, too, called him "Gramps." Some, like Bill Clinton and Ronald Reagan, counted later acquaintances among political donors as friends. But twice that year the group gathered in Hawaii in August before the Democratic National Convention and in December after Mr. Obamas election. 00:53 GMT 31 Dec 2014 His character, the way he conducts himself, thats always been his footprint. After a recent lunch with a reporter, he winked at a table of faculty-lounge colleagues and joked, This one is with Playgirl.. 'You are extremely sweet and foxy, I don't know why Greg would want to spend any time with me at all!' Obama hangs with high school buds during Hawaii vacation All Rights Reserved. Obama, the son of a black father and white mother, stood out. Barack Obama as a sophomore with the junior varsity basketball team at Punahou School, Honolulu, in 1977. She wistfully showed a reporter the love note Obama wrote in June 1979. 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He was a good player inside and out, Orme recalled. The same as in Washington, Orme said. The photos and interviews are in the new issue of TIME, which is out on Friday. IE 11 is not supported. Throughout his youth, as depicted in his first book, he always found ways to meld into even the most uninviting of communities. Or Hawaiian. Then his young mother, now divorced, met and married an Indonesian student studying at the University of Hawaii. I was certainly oblivious to a lot of what he references, Hale said in an interview. Topolinski, who now lives in Washington state, said he lost touch with Obama after high school and they moved into different political camps. Obama devotes many words in his book to exploring his outsider status at Punahou. For a reputed loner, Mr. Obama has remained remarkably close to a trio he met as a teenager at Honolulus prestigious Punahou School boys of Hawaiis year-round summer with whom he played basketball, bodysurfed, drank beer and, like so many other young islanders in the 1970s, smoked pot, the choom of that long-ago nickname. The fourth person in the picture is Obama's date,Megan Hughes. "He was very intelligent and witty. Right around then, we really started getting into basketball., Obama was all business when it came to "the game. Topolinski said neither he nor Obama were stars on their high school team. Get-togethers in the decades after high school were rare as the men built careers and families, although Mr. Ramos, Mr. Titcomb and Mr. Orme attended the Obamas Chicago wedding in 1992. He even scored a basket," he said. They were. "But looking back now I can see he was seeking more from those guys than that. The first family has attended Titcomb's annual luaus in the past. But he wanted to make everybody happy." Mr. Orme was unable to travel to Hawaii for the recent holiday, but the others called him twice. For most of their high school years, Orme and Obama lived and loved basketball, even if their hours of practice never translated into much playing time on game day. Or f------ Eskimo." "He was a very provocative thinker. Obama plays golf with Hawaii friends on Lanai owner's private course "He challenged the coaches.. "But it was only playing." There was his mother, Ann, a brilliant but impulsive woman; his grandmother Madelyn, a deeply private and stoically pragmatic Midwesterner; his grandfather Stanley, a loving soul inclined toward tall tales and unrealistic dreams. "I never picked up on that," Hagar said. "Looking back now, I'd say he really is kind of the perfect combination of all of them," said his half sister, Maya Soetoro-Ng. He remembers one day when young Obama, a hopelessly upbeat boy who seemed oblivious to the fact that the older kids didn't want him tagging along, followed a group of Adi's friends to a nearby swamp. Obama, too, was about to journey far from these familiar shores. Ramadi fell to IS in May, marking a major setback for Iraq and the U.S. 'Many people call Obama aloof, and he hasn't made a lot of friends in Washington,' Brinkley said. He had friends there, he was comfortable there, and to a kid his age, that's all that mattered." Then, one day about a year after he had arrived, Obama was gone. The 1979 photo was snapped inside the home of former classmate, Kelli Allman, who was the prom date of the president's close high schoolfriend, Greg Orme. They divorced after seven years of marriage and have a daughter. The Los Angeles Times weighed in the other day. From his earliest moments on the national political stage, Obama has presented himself as having two unique qualifications: a fresh political face and an ability to bridge the gap between Americans of different races, faiths and circumstances. 14:27 GMT 23 May 2013 "He was just one of those perfect [ethnic] mixes of everything you see in Hawaii." For Obama, reunion with pals a link to simpler times I am in poor health.. On this visit alone, Obama has spent more than 22 hours with the group on the lush golf courses that dot the island of Oahu. Obama's highs school pals in Hawaii: Mike Ramos, Bobby Titcomb, Greg Orme We are just such a mixed-up bag of races. Through the haze of the 70s, they recall only the rat baller who was always up for a game. He thanked "Tut and Gramps," his nicknames for Madelyn and Stanley Dunham, but didn't mention his faraway mother. Use of this site constitutes acceptance of our, Digital As the president's motorcade left the golf course at 3:58 p.m . In the 2004 presidential campaign, both John F. Kerry and President Bush were embroiled in disputes over their Vietnam-era records, controversies that were stoked by the conflicting recollections of people who knew them. We all come from so many backgrounds, we have to get along., Obamas teammates for the most part are careful not to judge an old friend, even if his memories of racial attitudes at Punahou differ from their own. But such solitude has become less and less attainable for presidents in modern times. TIME Magazine obtained and published this picture of President Obama the night of his senior prom in Honolulu, Hawaii, in 1979, from his classmate Kelli Allman. In 2011, he pleaded no contest to soliciting a prostitute, but Obama has stayed fiercely loyal to his childhood friend. There are, however, chapters in Obamas high school narrative that are not subject to dispute. With rain drizzling over Oahu, Obama's motorcade whisked Obama across the island to Titcomb's beachside home in Waialua, about an hour outside of Honolulu on the North Shore. The Secret Service stopped a man who briefly flew a drone near the president's motorcade Monday as the president and his friends were returning from golf at the Mid-Pacific Country Club. The Latest: Obamas, friends tour Hawaii Islamic arts center ", We would be like, Hey lets go to the beach, Bendix recalled. For much of their childhoods, Orme and Obama were more like brothers than buddies, constant companions both on and off the basketball court who even double-dated on senior prom night. Though Orme spent most afternoons with Obama and considered him one of his closest friends, he said Obama never brought up issues of race, never talked about feeling out of place at Punahou. Others almost certainly illustrate how carefully the young man guarded the secret of his loneliness from even those who knew him best. When she told him she loved him, he responded with 'thank you', according to Maraniss, and they broke up in May 1985. The president turns 53 on Monday. The Latest: Obama finishes playing golf with 3 friends | AP News She became estranged from her husband, Barack Obama Sr., after his departure for Harvard and rarely saw the group of friends that they had made at the University of Hawaii. For the past two weeks, he has been recharging on Oahu after an unpleasant year in the job. This article originally appeared in the May 23, 2013 edition of TIME magazine underneath the title, Obamas Grand Old Party. To subscribe to TIME, click here. HONOLULU (AP) The Latest on President Barack Obama family vacation in Hawaii (all times local): 10 p.m. President Barack Obama and his family dined with friends Wednesday night to cap off another day of their Hawaii getaway. In fact, it is surprising, based on interviews with more than two dozen people who knew Obama during his nearly four years in Indonesia, that it would take a photograph in a magazine to make him conscious of the fact that some people might treat him differently in part because of the color of his skin. He was a younger black man looking for guidance." Hes off the grid, said Hale, who is now the schools head basketball coach. Pic of the day: Barack Obama at prom | Salon.com As you know, he made getting better health care for Americans one of his missions.. I really admire that.. Obama, he said, was especially adept at knowing how to build relationships. He said it puzzles him that, as president, Obama was often accused of failing to reach out to political opponents. We had great vibes between us, she told TIME. He can really relate to people. The Hawaii holidays became more and more appealing, he said in an interview just after he began his run for president. College would be his next stop.
The handful of black students who attended Punahou School in Hawaii, for instance, say they struggled mightily with issues of race and racism there. But any struggles he was experiencing were obscured by the fact that he had a racially diverse group of friends--many of whom often would crowd into his grandparents' apartment, near Punahou, after school let out. Obama, who has talked and written so much about struggling to find a sense of belonging due to his mixed race, brushes over this time of his life in "Dreams." Both of them seemed surprised to hear that in "Dreams"--which neither of them had read--Obama writes about routinely going to parties at Schofield Barracks and other military bases in order to hang out with "Ray," who like Anthony and Smith was two years ahead of him in school. But Obama never gave up and his work ethic was second to none on this team. Dan Hale, the 6-foot-7-inch star center of the 1979 Punahou basketball team, said Obamas depiction of Hawaii as a place where race really mattered hardly resonates with him. We are no longer accepting comments on this article. And he clearly didn't appreciate that," Orme said. They compose notes to friends and family and include photos or quotes that best represent them. In his poem, An Old Man, there are glimpses of a tortured adolescent as well as a budding orator. "He would be very helpful with friends. 'The sexual warmth is definitely there,' Cook wrote in her journal. These have been the stories told about the first two character-shaping decades of U.S. Sen. Barack Obama's life, a story line largely shaped by his own best-selling memoir, political speeches and interviews. The three men - Mike Ramos, Bobby Titcomb and Greg Orme - are among the few people still in Obama's life who knew him long before he was famous. He was always very focused.. I am not giving any interviews, Obamas grandmother, Madelyn Dunham, curtly interjected when a reporter phoned.